Writing your own vows is very very special, but unless you are a writer or a public orator, it can seem daunting to write and speak them. Here are a few helpful tips to get you comfortable before the BIG DAY!
Start finding inspiration a few months prior to your wedding. You can find inspiration ANYWHERE! A friend's weddings, a favorite song, poetry, a children's book, your parent's vows, the list goes on and on.
Start with an outline. This will be the hardest part, but once you have your thoughts organized, it will be easier to write the vows.
Don't be afraid to ask a creative friend (best case scenario, creative copy-writer friend) to read through your vows and make suggestions.
Once you have your vows written, be sure to start practicing them. Reading them out loud to yourself in the mirror is the oldest trick in the book, but it works! You can also practice reciting them to a trustworthy group of friends (like your bridesmaids, of course!)
Don't worry about memorizing them. Transfer your vows to a pretty book and read from there. Your officiant can keep your vows safe for you as you walk down the aisle.
Do not share your vows with your spouse-to-be! Save the words, emotion, and surprise for the BIG DAY!
It's OK to incorporate humor into your vows, but be careful not to get too carried away. Your vows are after all the most serious moment of your BIG DAY. Leave the slapstick to the speeches.
Quick tip: be sure to consult your officiant before deciding to write your own vows. Some houses of worship don't allow it.
Good luck! You can do it!
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